Wednesday, October 16, 2013

Bali: Day 4 - 6 (or, Second Honeymoon Begins)

An awesome thing about working in international development is getting to meet really interesting people. To be fair, there are a lot of whack jobs among us, clique dynamics thrive high school style in a way that I find surprising considering everyone is just trying to make it through the day, people come and go so frequently and everyone knows that its best to find some warm bodies to hang with while nudging out a bit of a life for yourself: soon. Friendships and relationships can be fast and furious; getting to know someone often quick and dirty. But if you can wade through the workaholics, the bitter divorcees, the mean girls, the sanctimonious, the married but available, the life-ers who are addicted to hard duty stations and probably should have quit a while ago, and the alcoholics (high functioning and not so high functioning) *, there is the potential to make some truly lasting connections.

Enter: Nisha.

Nisha and I met working in Khartoum in 2011. It would be no lie to say that it was one of the toughest years for me, trying to find a way to do my job while simultaneously maintaining some semblance of sanity. The universe apparently took pity on me and she popped up in Khartoum only a few days after I flew in for the first time. I needed more than “friendly”. I needed a Friend. Hooray! I had one now! It was easy and comfortable and so, so nice to have someone to rant to, strategize with and poke fun at, regardless of which side of the precarious Sudan/South Sudan border I was on.

Together in a field site once, I pretended to be unconscious at the wheel of a land cruiser when she was training the Drivers how to get a hurt/sick person out of the car – it wasn’t pretty but the Sudanese staff sure thought it was hilarious.

For anyone who remembers Trainer, it was Nisha’s house I went to after that first fateful night (“He didn’t even know my name!!”). Somehow she even managed to find the generosity to lend a respectable amount of sympathy for all the other dicky things he continued to do (and I continued to put up with) in the following months.

We went to Zanzibar together in 2012, deciding that being single wasn’t going to stop us from visiting some of the best honeymoon destinations and we might as well do it together. Some of you may recall that post, called Worst.Holiday.Ever which was totally tongue in cheek and seems to have been one of the most read posts I’ve ever written (and which, if we are being honest, means that a whole bunch of you out there are twisted, dramatic, misery ambulance chasers who tuned in thinking I really DID have an awful time and wanted to peek in on it  - and I think you really should have a good hard look at yourself about that!)

Anyway, I’m sure you can imagine my excitement when she finally arrived to release me from my solo traveler status and embark on a solid week-long catch up. Our Second Honeymoon.

We stayed up until 2am the first night, jabbering on for hours: work stuff, personal stuff, maybe a wee bit of gossip about people we have in common (some of whom we actually like). Then we laid by the pool, her with her face in a book and me on my iPhone frantically trying to google answers to all of my life problems (“Why are guys dick heads sometimes?”, “What should I do with my life?”, “How to be happy”, “How to live in the moment” **, “Am I supposed to tip in Bali?”, “I hate Windows 8”).

I’m still working through it all.
(Except for the Windows 8 bit, I’m getting rid of that mother when 8.1 comes out tomorrow).

The part of Bali that we are (Legian) in is very touristy. For the most part we stayed away from the truly manic centre of neighbouring Kuta, but even so were still inundated by the mad mechanism that is the tourist industry; you’re either looking for your own unique bargain experience or are going to do your darndest to part those who are with their cash (and it’s blindingly obvious which side any one individual is on).
Interestingly, I’m clearly getting on in age because everyone wants to know if I want to change money but not a single person has offered me drugs.

While in a taxi one evening, we even noted that around here, you could even miss Bali if you weren’t looking for it. To find it you needed to look past the billions of yards of rayon flapping inside the doorways of shops, past the promise of all night parties and “cheap price” taxi fares, because nestled between it all are small temples, stone carvings and ornately carved doors that lead to small passage ways and, presumably, tucked away family homes. Offerings on the sidewalks. Incense burning in the corner of the room. All easily missed if you let it.

Nevertheless, we were in this tourist mecca so we decided to embrace our tourist status and go to the Hard Rock CafĂ© for dinner one day. I know, I know what you’re thinking, “Why the hell would they go all the way to Bali and then go to the Hard Rock?”

Nisha had never been to one before and that seemed unreasonable.

We appropriately admired the rock paraphernalia, and indulged in a mixed platter of delicious typical pup appetizers. I encouraged her to take advantage of as many soda refills as she could, in true North American style (refills were free from the third one on, so it was clearly an economic decision to have another).

After we finished eating, and very much unbeknownst to us, there was a concert about to start. A Japanese heavy metal band was opening for a British heavy metal band and we were certainly going to wait around and see some of this play out.

Considerate as she was, the announcer reminded everyone to stretch properly before they started head banging.

When the band came out, even though I’d never before thought about the existence of Japanese heavy metal bands, they were exactly what I’d have pictured if I had. The Indonesian mob of (mostly) male youth who went nuts taking running jumps and smashing into each other on the dance floor was also something I’d never before considered. But was pretty awesome. And perhaps adds to why I don’t actually feel bad at all about not having gone somewhere else for dinner – we weren’t even looking but got lucky and caught a glimpse of something anyway.

Next stop: Ubud.


* Note that I’m channeling previous experience here more than current; the mixed bag in Solomon Islands is, thankfully, much more palatable, happy, and friendly!


**The irony of this is duly noted.

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