Friday, October 12, 2012

When something unexpected makes things way better (then probably worse)


I went to my favorite lunch spot today. It’s a local expat hotspot, usually packed full of pink, familiar faces. It’s the kind of place where everything is tasty but expensive, and totally worth it simply for the opportunity to bask in the air conditioned bliss. Chilly is not a word we often get to use here. I’ll pay for that luxury.

It’s also the kind of place that people are ‘seen’.  You’re doing something wrong if you turn up and don’t see anyone you know. This can be fun because not having a lunch date becomes a less intimidating prospect as there is a pretty good chance someone will invite you to pull up a chair. It has its downsides too, however, because this location plays its part in fueling the beloved pastime of basically any small expat town: gossip. Gossip, of course is fun, and in many ways is the heart and soul of the expat community (in our down time of course, when we’re not too busy saving the world). Until it’s your turn. At which point you have to duck and cover or focus on the food.

My favourite menu item at this particular place, since the very start, has been their pine-minty-passion blend. It’s a delicious mix of fresh pineapple, passion fruit and mint, smashed together with ice to make a fresh and tropical pick-me-up suitable for basically any point in any day. There is simply always an excuse for one. Had a good day? Let’s celebrate with a pine-minty-passion blend. Crap day? Pine-minty-passion blend please. Hung over as shit and the world is spinning? You see where I’m going with this.

I make a habit of rocking up for one on Friday’s, at the very least. As to plan, I showed up just past noon today, smiled at the few people I knew, who unfortunately appeared to be engaged in conversation that I opted not to fully interrupt, and made my way into the line to order.

“One pine-minty-passion blend please”, and then I found a table for two to sit at, because I always find it douchy when people who are eating alone monopolize the larger tables. Larger tables without the security of friends to occupy the other seats also make me feel bad about myself.

So I waited, not exactly alone, as any iPhone owner would understand. My hand may have shaken discernibly as I handed over my credit card to purchase my glistening white iPhone friend, but it’s been worth every one of the 80,000 pennies it cost me. Look, that loser is sitting alone. (Notices that I’m in fact engaged with my iPhone) Oh my bad dude, she’s totally busy and important. I’m such a jerk.

I perused facebook and started into an essay by one of my new favourite bloggers. And then it came. And there was something unusual about it. It looked different; and it definitely wasn’t the right colour. The specks of passion fruit and mint were obvious though, so without too much thought about the situation, I decided to try it anyways. If it was gross I could surely send it back and fix my order without too much trouble. Plus, I have been trying to take good advice lately to just ‘go with the flow’, and this seemed like a harmless opportunity to practice. (Some of that advice is my own - it’s easier to give than take). So I set aside expectations and any preconceptions I had about my order going to plan.

And it was…. awesome. Like, really, really delicious.

What I discovered is that instead of bringing me a pine-minty-passion blend, they brought me a pine-minty-passion smoothie. The difference? Ice cream instead of just ice. Man, what a friggin’ awesome combination.

Now the mix up may have been my fault. I would eyeball the smoothie on the menu board nearly every time I was in there, always opting to go for the blend; playing it cool and enjoying the smoothie only as a possibility that would never find its way onto my order form. I’ve always known that I would really like the smoothie. From the first time I saw it on the menu board I knew I thought it was an awesome combination. Ice cream makes everything more delicious, but perhaps I never truly felt that I deserved the smoothie.

Maybe today I unintentionally asked for what I really wanted. Maybe the woman who took my order made a small mistake that would unknowingly change everything. Maybe the universe decided that it was time that I knew what I was missing. Maybe.

So there I was, enjoying this smoothie that I had thought about enjoying for so long, not really understanding why it had happened and mostly not caring. Except that I now knew that it would be so hard to go back. I could never undo that I now knew what the smoothie was like. Would my pine-minty-passion blend, that once was so satisfying and exciting, now cease to be so? How disappointing.

Now that I've had the smoothie - this particular smoothie - that I had kept at the back of my mind for so long but kept suppressing as a real option, how hard will it be to go back to not having it? Knowing what you’re missing is way worse than just speculating.

I may never be able to walk up to the menu board and order myself a pine-minty-passion smoothie, but I’ll be thinking about it often. Something about it seems too indulgent, but if it finds me again I’d be up for that. Could even make a ‘thing’ of it if I find a way to open up to the possibility.

So why all the fuss? Well, this story is completely about a smoothie.

But it’s also basically same thing that has happened recently with me and a guy.

(Though when I walk into the café, no one is whispering about me and the smoothie)

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